So imagine you and I want to go to a movie and I have one movie in mind and you have another. If you insist that I go to your movie, that is called “competing.” This is a competing style of managing conflict. If I agree to go see your movie, even though I prefer a different one, this is “accommodating.” This is the accommodating style of managing conflict. If I mention a third movie that neither one of us is happy about but we are both willing to live with it, that is called “compromising.” And if we both decide to do some research and find a totally different movie that we both feel good about, that is called collaborating.
Who are you courageously collaborating with? At work? At home? How is collaboration showing up? Are you accommodating or competing?
Collaborating is a form of making music.